This year as the A to Z Blog Challenge celebrates its 10th anniversary, and I’m working on my book (and attitude) about Embracing 60, I’m sharing some A – Z posts about ageing – some of them humorous, some of them serious.
M: Maturity
A man’s age is something impressive, it sums up his life: maturity reached slowly and against many obstacles, illnesses cured, griefs and despairs overcome, and unconscious risks taken; maturity formed through so many desires, hopes, regrets, forgotten things, loves. A man’s age represents a fine cargo of experiences and memories.
~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Wartime Writings 1939-1944,
translated from French by Norah Purcell
A man’s age represents a fine cargo of experiences and memories. What a beautiful thought. Somehow I tend to look at the obstacles, griefs, and despairs in life and see them as a negative – things to muddle through and ‘survive’. Yes, I’ve become more mature through these experiences, but I’ve never given them the credit for adding this depth to my life. When I look at the past through this lens, I realize that all the events and happenings that I’ve labeled as negative can truly be counted as blessings.
This slow ageing through the years, like a fine wine mellowing in its oak cask is a fine cargo I can boast of – it’s not something to bemoan and whine about.
I’ll claim the maturity that is mine, which I’ve earned through these past sixty years, while acknowledging that life is not yet over and there is still much to learn, enjoy, and embrace.
Apr 15, 2019 @ 12:41:50
I’m only just learning to look at my regrets differently, and also to stop blaming myself for them as if I were still that age. And I’m 70! But I’ve found it’s easier to forgive myself now, realizing I was so young then – and naive. And I really did learn from each regret.
Apr 16, 2019 @ 00:12:08
Very true, my friend. It’s when we stop learning and stop growing that we’re in trouble!
Apr 15, 2019 @ 12:53:57
What wisdom could we share were it not for our mistakes? Great posr!
Apr 16, 2019 @ 00:08:01
Thank you!
Apr 16, 2019 @ 13:30:31
Another great post Trisha! Five years ago I began with earnest to write about my life, the joys and the sorrows. Best thing I could have done. It helped me see a beautiful pattern along with lessons learned. ❤
https://meinthemiddlewrites.com/2019/04/16/atozchallenge-april-world-holidays-letter-n/
Apr 16, 2019 @ 20:17:00
Thank you Mary Lou!
I love how you wrote that you saw “a beautiful pattern along with lessons learned.”