A Cheesy Potatoes Conundrum


A Cheesy Potatoes Conundrum

As I’m getting older I’m noticing two different issues in my life that are getting stronger. Yet, they each seem diametrically opposed to each other. A few weeks ago, an order of cheesy potatoes highlighted that conundrum.

On one hand, I’m getting better at defining what I want – and don’t want – in my life. Now that I’ve reached the magical 60-mile marker this year, it’s about time! You’d think I would have learned this valuable lesson long ago. Oh, I’ve flexed my muscles on it here and there. But overall, I’ve allowed too much to simply happen. I’ve also allowed too much in my life that I don’t want. And I haven’t pursued my dreams and true desires with enough determination.

I’m getting better at being clearer about what I want my life to be like. Is it because I sense a running out of time? A feeling that I’d better get life how I want it now because there aren’t as many years left on this side of the journey as what I’ve come through yet?

On the other hand, I’ve also gotten better and letting go of things. I’ve learned that too often many of us let unimportant details and events derail our peace.

That day I drove between two different stores that I had to visit for my day job. Passing by Taco Bell, I made a quick trip through the drive-through and ordered my favorite shredded chicken taco and an order of Cheesy Fiesta Potatoes. Yum! I could smell the aromas the two miles to my next stop. By the time I pulled into the parking lot my stomach was rumbling in anticipation of the tasty flavors awaiting my consumption.

I ate the taco first, savoring every morsel. Then I rustled in the bag in search of the next delicacy…the potatoes. It’s a little quirk of mine, but I eat my favorite thing last so that the flavors of the favored dish are the last thing I taste. Their potatoes are always toasted perfectly and swimming in a melted cheese queso, topped with sour cream. After pulling out the little container I started digging in the bag for the fork.

No fork.

I looked again, digging under extra napkins.


What? How can I eat these with no fork?

I didn’t want to drive two miles back to Taco Bell, and then another two miles back to the store just to get a utensil that should have been provided in the first place.

This happened on a week where I was making a concerted effort to take actions that would enhance a life that is more in line with what I truly want. I wanted this lunch and I wanted a fork to eat with. Isn’t having a life that you want part of having small things consistent with your desires also?

I found myself starting to get agitated about them not putting a fork in the bag. I’d already crumpled up the receipt and thrown it in the bag since I’d paid with cash and didn’t need the receipt. As the riled-up factor started raising, I pulled the receipt out of the bag. I knew there was a sweepstakes entry on the back, so I figured there would be a customer service number somewhere on it too. By golly, I was going to email in when I got home and complain about this.

And then the ‘other-hand’ part of the conundrum kicked in. So, they’d forgotten to insert one little itty bitty piece of plastic in the bag. Yes, it was inconvenient. But, was it important? Was the world going to fall apart? Overall, in the grand scheme of life, where did this rate? On a 1-10…not even a 1.

I threw the receipt back in the bag and ate the potatoes with my fingers. Yes, it was a little messier eating than I liked. But once the fingers were licked clean, and then wiped off good – since they did give me plenty of napkins – all was well. My tummy was happy. My hands were still clean. I didn’t waste the time and gas to drive four miles to go back and get a fork. And my life went on with no differences.

Maybe four issues, not two issues, came into play that day: Creating a life that I want, letting go of what isn’t important, finding a balance between the two, and choosing your battles. No, this issue certainly wasn’t worth a battle. As I get older I find myself a little wiser in balancing between the two opposing sides and sizing up whether an issue warrants a battle, or not.

Life didn’t come with an instruction book. We have to write our own. And even though there are days where I’m not enamored with the getting older part of life, I’m thankful that I’m still here and daily adding to my personal Life’s Instruction Book. Even if it takes an order of cheesy potatoes – with no fork – to bring some of these lessons home.


20 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Mary Lou
    Dec 05, 2018 @ 00:38:13

    Absolutely loved this post! Choose your battles and putting things in perspective. By the way, those cheesy fiesta potatoes sound awesome! 🙂 Nice post to share on Facebook and Twitter for #MLSTL! Thanks Trisha!


  2. olderwisermoneymiser
    Dec 05, 2018 @ 00:38:24

    Choose your battles is a lesson I continue working on. Great post, and I’m glad you got to enjoy your potatoes! 🙂 #MLSTL


  3. Cindy
    Dec 05, 2018 @ 00:46:35

    Great post, Trisha! I loved it. So true. Today I hit 70, but I still have a little catching up to do to match your wisdom. Thanks for writing this.


  4. Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond
    Dec 05, 2018 @ 08:00:39

    I loved this post Trisha and so much of it resonated with me. I love your four issues : creating the life you want, letting go of what you don’t, finding a balance and picking your battles. I’ve been trying to achieve these four things and you have given me a new perspective on things. Thank you for an inspiring and wise post and sharing with us at #MLSTL. BTW, I also like to leave my favourite food in the meal until last LOL:)


    • trishafaye
      Dec 06, 2018 @ 01:44:44

      I’m glad you enjoyed it Sue.
      I’m glad I’m not the only one that eats their favorite dish last. It’s so much savoring each delicious bite then.


  5. leannelc
    Dec 05, 2018 @ 12:18:48

    Well two things – a) I’ve missed you Trisha and it’s lovely to have you back at MLSTL and b) my mouth is watering just thinking about those cheesy potato things that we don’t have in Australia (darn!!) I’d have shovelled them in without a fork too and I’m glad you didn’t let the lack of a fork ruin the joy of the fries – life is short – and I’m glad you shovelled and wiped afterwards!
    MLSTL – I’ve shared on my SM 🙂


    • trishafaye
      Dec 06, 2018 @ 01:42:17

      Thanks Leanne! And it’s good to be back. The past 6-8 weeks have been overwhelming to say the least. But I muddled through. It felt good yesterday to be able to write for two blogs that I enjoy participating with.
      Wish I could ship you some cheesy fries to Australia. But I doubt they’d be any good once they finally got there LOL


  6. Jean C at Snoring Dog Studio
    Dec 05, 2018 @ 13:21:21

    yes! I’m convinced that’s the only way to enjoy life to the fullest – ignore the little things and don’t get worked up over them. Also, always carry utensils and napkins in the car. Great post!


  7. Lida Bushloper
    Dec 05, 2018 @ 17:03:49

    I love this! I identify with every one of your points. The example of your experience with the quandary of the missing work is a perfect illustration of what you are telling us–and yourself. I always look forward to your blog dropping into my inbox. Lida


  8. Johanna
    Dec 06, 2018 @ 04:02:04

    Cheesy potatoes sound delicious! I’ve also turned 60 this year, and have been re-evaluating how I spend my time. But actually I think I need more cheesy potatoes and donuts in my life as a starter! Loved this post 🙂 #MLSTL


    • trishafaye
      Dec 06, 2018 @ 23:14:43

      They are Johanna! You know, other than my addiction to chocolate and ice cream, I’m a fairly healthy eater. But every now and then, I do enjoy something that’s not necessarily on the ‘healthiest list’. Because I believe we need to treat ourselves too, probably more than we do. Happy 60!!


  9. Bethany @ Happily Loco
    Dec 09, 2018 @ 18:06:32

    I have been there too! It is so easy to get hung up on the small stuff, and not notice the larger picture.



  10. SpookyMrsGreen
    Dec 24, 2018 @ 12:16:07

    Choosing your battles is definitely my motto of the moment – and now I’m craving cheesy potatoes (with a fork!) 🙂


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