A to Z: ‘X’ is for EXPERIENCING GRIEF

It’s April! That means it’s time for the ‘BLOGGING A to Z CHALLENGE’. Everyday this month (except Sunday) bloggers will be blogging to a theme, using different letter of the alphabet – running, of course, from A to Z.

I’m blogging about MEMORY GARDENS: botanical tributes to celebrate our loved ones. Most of my writing is about keeping memories alive, so a spring garden is a perfect match to celebrate loved ones memories. Come join us all month for 26 different posts about Memory Gardens … and then, maybe plant your own tribute to remember your own special person.

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A to Z: ‘X’ is for EXPERIENCING GRIEF

stages of griefGrief over the loss of a loved one is a complicated and lengthy process. Entire books have been written on grief, so summing it up in one or two paragraphs doesn’t begin to cover the depths of this crippling emotion.

In How to Survive the Loss of a Love, three stages are talked about, that a grieving person goes through. The stages are distinct, yet often overlapping. They are: shock/denial/numbness, followed by fear/anger/depression, leading into understanding/acceptance/moving on.

The book also states:

“When an emotional injury takes place, the body begins a process as natural as the healing of a physical wound. Let the process happen. Trust the process. Surrender to it. Trust that nature will do the healing.”

Many steps to healing are outlined. Along with, ‘It’s OK to feel afraid, ‘It’s OK to feel anger’, ‘It’s OK to feel depressed’, are other positive steps towards healing. One of the steps is ‘Surround yourself with things that are alive’.

A memory garden is a way to surround yourself with things that are alive – a whole garden full of alive. The life in nature is soothing and reaffirming. When planted to specifically remember, it provides solace.

Experience your grief and feel your pain and emotions. Remember your loved one. And move on towards healing, knowing that the memories will live with you forever.

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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Tarkabarka
    Apr 28, 2014 @ 21:45:24

    People close to me have been grieving recently, and I am learning how to help them and support them. Thank you for your blog!

    @TarkabarkaHolgy from
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